6/100 #SoWillI #Inspired
During my bridal shower, I was gifted with a sieve. A nice kitchen sieve that I use in my kitchen. I just saw it this morning and remembered it’s purpose: To sieve my words. Yes, as I stepped into marriage, I was adviced to watch my words. I was to sieve them to ensure that only the good ones came out, especially when addressing my husband.
Have I always used the symbolic sieve? No. Actually I just thought about it this morning as I used it. I have failed terribly; in most cases with the excuse that my husband is my best friend and I need to tell him as it is! In fact once in a while I say “should I sugar coat or be real?” Not knowing that my words are hurtful.
Someone said we are more kind to strangers than the people close to us. We get so familiar that our jokes and comments become hurtful. Plus, we expect them to understand and tolerate us because we are ‘real’. Once in a while it is good to sit, reflect and audit the impact of our words. It is very possible to be kind and real at the same time. We don’t have to destroy, harm and hurt with our words in order to prove a point. Look at Jesus being tempted in the wilderness, His response to satan was very kind and firm. Yet He was addressing satan. Okay, I wouldn’t mind if He was rude to satan, because… it’s satan! But Jesus was still kind. (Matthew 4:1-11)
I think people should be given this sieve from the time they are born: A monthly gift! Or it should be hang in the living room with its purpose stipulated. Because watching our words should be a daily reminder. A daily prayer.
“Set a guard over my mouth, O LORD; keep watch over the door of my lips” Psalm 141:3
Today, get your sieve. You don’t need to buy one, just have a mental one and be deliberate about using it. Be slow to speak, ensure that your words are well thought through. ‘Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.’ Ephesians 4:29
When you can’t think of anything good to say. Dig in God’s word and meditate on it day and night. When all you know is what is written, then the fruit of the spirit will be evident in you. It will be evident in what you say. It will be evident to the people you address.
Anytime you see or use a sieve, be reminded to watch your words.