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A few days ago I was having a conversation with some friends on marriage, one of us had been disappointed by a church guy. Her relationship had just ended and she was on a venting mode, we chose to hear her out until she said a statement that made us all talk. She said ‘I wouldn’t advice anyone to date a church guy, church men are the worst. No one is genuine’ Well, at that moment of hurt she had all the rights to express it that way, but for the rest of us a conversation on the same erupted. By the time we were done, it was evident that going to church is not enough.
We agreed on a few things then disagreed on the rest. One of the things we agreed on was; it is not just men, even women can disappoint in a relationship, some women are also not genuine, We agreed that it is not right to judge all men and call them ‘the worst’ because of what one man has done, because in the same church someone has just proposed to his girlfriend, so some relationships are working. We finally agreed that most of the time, things are not always as they seem. Just because he goes to church with a notebook and Bible does not mean they will make a great spouse. Just because she is a worship leader does not mean she will make an awesome wife. Being seen busy in church is not enough.
We have mastered the act of playing church. We are raising our children to know that Sunday is the only day of the week we dress decently, we walk together as a family, hold hands and pray in church, sing together and smile at each other. Sunday is the day we are careful about our speech, that’s why you will see a parent saying to a child ‘don’t do this here, we are in church’ or ‘don’t say that here we are in church’ or ‘don’t put on that, we are going to church’ So our kids grow up knowing that the only place to do right, dress right and speak right is in church. They grow up, start dating and realize they have to go for a date outside church, the real lady shows up, with the Tuesday speech, the man shows up with the Thursday behavior, a relationship breaks. Then we all gather and point fingers saying ‘but they were serving in church’ well, serving in church is not enough.
The moment we get saved and invite Jesus to rule our hearts, we are surrendering to Him, everything. We are making a decision that we no longer live but Christ lives in us. This means living for God each and every day: Each and every hour. The famous quote goes, ‘church begins on Monday, Sunday is garage day’ so what we do from Monday to Saturday speaks more about our faith than what we do on Sunday. Remember Jesus is the vine, we are the branches. No branch can disconnect itself and come back to the vine once a week then expect to bear fruit. We need to remain in Him. John 15:4 ‘Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.’ Being a branch is not enough.
We also agreed that when we remain in Christ He directs us on whom to relate with, He reveals to us things that we don’t see on each other one Sunday. He gives us specific instructions. We made a prayer, that the Lord will help us live for Him, beyond church.
May the Lord help us all.